The usual feedback I get from people I came across is that they feel much better after talking to me. They think they can trust me, which encouraged them to open up about their situations, even the struggles that they are experiencing. In addition, they say I make them feel motivated and inspired to go for whatever they are looking to achieve. Not too bad when my work as a Career Coach calls precisely for that.
Watching myself in all these intimate conversations over the years, I noticed one thing constant – I was present. Even in a room full of people, I can laser focus on the person in front of me. I listen not only to the words that the other person is saying. I observe their entire body movement, especially the eyes and facial expressions. I listen not only to what they say but more so to what they don’t say. There’s just this natural curiosity in me in what the other person presents in every single conversation.
The downside to this propensity for fully engaged conversations is that I only connect meaningfully with 2-3 person tops in a single event. I get mentally exhausted after that. In the end, I have to admit that I’m not a “speed-dater.” I’m more of a confessional box. However, I don’t mind at all. I consider each conversation vital if I’m able to create a positive impact with the other person.
What was it like when you were fully present for yourself? What was different?
What was it like when you were indeed present for another person? What stood out for you?
What difference did it make when you were indeed present at your work? What shifted for you?